Cheating sounds bad.
Usually, it is.
Cheating on your taxes? Bad.
Cheating on your spouse? Wicked.
Cheating at golf? Apparently common, but still bad.
But there is another kind of “cheating” every pastor needs to learn.
Because some things in your life are already cheating you.
Your phone is cheating your focus.
Your inbox is cheating your sermon prep.
Your appetite is cheating your energy.
Your open-door policy is cheating your deep work.
Your false guilt is cheating your calling.
So maybe the real question is not:
“Is cheating wrong?”
The better question is:
“What are you cheating… and what is cheating you?”
The optimized pastor must learn to cheat the wrong things so he can stay faithful to the right things.
This week, my daughter was in a bit of a bind, so Scarlet and I were asked to babysit our 9-month-old granddaughter.
And listen, there are not many things I’d rather do than spend time with that sweet grandbaby.
But next week I'm preaching for 800+ students at a beach camp, and I'm not finished with the polish part of the prep.
Saying no felt like cheating.
It felt like I was cheating my daughter.
Cheating my grandchild.
Cheating a sweet family moment.
But I wasn’t.
I was stewarding the assignment in front of me.
And yes, I’ll make it up later.
Grandkids have a way of collecting back pay.
The Need Does Not Constitute the Call
Major Ian Thomas said something that deeply marked me:
“The need does not constitute the call.”
That sentence can save a pastor’s life.
Because ministry is surrounded by need.
There is always:
· another person to call
· another meeting to attend
· another problem to solve
· another message to answer
· another crisis to absorb
· another expectation to manage
· another “quick question” that somehow needs 47 minutes and possibly a whiteboard
But need alone does not equal assignment.
A need may be real.
A need may be urgent.
A need may be emotional.
A need may even be important.
But that still does not mean God has assigned it to you right now.
And sometimes the “need” is not even real.
Sometimes it is only perceived.
Sometimes it is:
· someone’s anxiety
· someone’s preference
· someone’s poor planning
· someone’s desire for access
· someone’s discomfort with your boundary
· someone’s assumption that your availability proves your love
Not every need is a call.
Some needs are just noise...
with urgency attached.
(Sometimes the smoke alarm goes off just because somebody made toast.)
And here is the deeper point:
Our allegiance is not ultimately to the call.
Our allegiance is to Christ.
The call matters because Christ gave it.
Stewardship matters because it is unto Him.
So the question is not merely:
“Is there a need?”
The better question is:
“Has Christ assigned this to me right now?”
Because if every need becomes your master, Christ functionally stops being the One directing your stewardship.
That is not faithfulness.
That is need-driven bondage wearing a ministry badge.
Jesus Walked Away From Apparent Needs
Jesus was surrounded by actual need.
Sick people.
Hurting people.
Confused people.
Demonized people.
Hungry people.
Crowds pressing in.
And yet Jesus withdrew.
He withdrew to pray.
He slept in a storm.
He focused on the Twelve.
Sometimes just Peter, James, and John.
He left places where people still had needs.
To some modern ministry expectations, that would look suspicious.
A crowd is waiting, and He goes away to pray?
People are looking for Him, and He moves on to another town?
A storm is raging, and He is asleep?
Thousands are following, and He narrows His focus to a few men?
That could look selfish to someone who worships availability.
But Jesus was not selfish.
He was submitted.
Jesus did not betray the mission when He withdrew from the crowd.
He betrayed the crowd’s assumption that need equals ownership.
Read that again.
Jesus was never controlled by the loudest need in the room.
He was governed by the Father.
That is the difference between ministry driven by pressure and ministry directed by God.
And if Jesus Himself withdrew, prayed, slept, prioritized, focused, and disappointed people, then you are not more spiritual for refusing to do the same.
You may just be more tired.
And possibly more caffeinated.
Pastors Are Trained to Feel Guilty for Stewardship
Pastors often feel guilty for doing the wise thing.
You feel guilty going to the gym because someone might need you.
You feel guilty eating clean because the fellowship table has expectations.
You feel guilty locking the office door because someone might think you are inaccessible.
You feel guilty turning off the phone because someone might text.
You feel guilty taking a nap because “real pastors push through.”
You feel guilty going home because the work is not done.
But the work is never done.
So if “done” is the requirement for health, rest, focus, prayer, sleep, and family time, you will never receive them.
Guilt is a terrible shepherd.
False guilt will gladly ruin your health and call it faithfulness.
This is where pastors have to learn the difference between responsibility and scripting.
Real responsibility must be honored.
But bad scripting must be betrayed.
Some scripts need to be retired like the church fax machine everyone insists “still works.”
Some scripts are not harmless.
They are actively stealing from the life and calling God has placed under your stewardship.
The late-night scroll is not harmless if it destroys tomorrow’s clarity.
The constantly open inbox is not harmless if it fractures sermon prep.
The always-unlocked office door is not harmless if it prevents deep work.
The “I’ll eat later” pattern is not harmless if it wrecks your energy.
The “I’ll get to the gym when things calm down” script is not harmless if it slowly weakens the vessel.
Some routines are not serving your ministry.
They are committing treason against it.
So betray them first.
What the Optimized Pastor Must Learn to Cheat
Here's a few...
Cheat the appetite script.
The script says:
“I deserve this.”
“It’s just one snack.”
“I’m too busy to eat well.”
“Fellowship food doesn’t count.”
But the optimized pastor cheats that script.
He eats protein first.
He plans simple meals.
He refuses to let whatever appears in the church kitchen dictate his energy.
You are not cheating fellowship by skipping the sugar crash.
You are stewarding your body for the work God gave you.
Cheat the open-door myth.
The script says:
“A good pastor is always available.”
No, he isn’t.
A good pastor is faithfully available for what Christ assigns.
There is a difference.
An always-open door often creates an always-scattered pastor.
Block sermon prep.
Lock the door.
Silence the phone.
Protect the work that requires an undivided mind.
You cannot prepare a clear word while being interrupted every seven minutes by people who “just need a second.”
Because they almost never need a second.
They need a second plus twenty-six minutes and a story about their cousin.
Cheat the inbox.
The script says:
“Responsible leaders respond immediately.”
Not always.
Immediate response is not always responsible leadership.
Sometimes immediate response trains everyone around you to treat your attention like community property.
Your inbox should serve your calling.
It should not govern your nervous system.
Check it intentionally.
Then leave it alone.
Bro, Gmail is not the Holy Spirit.
Cheat the crowd.
Jesus had the crowds.
Then He had the seventy.
Then the Twelve.
Then Peter, James, and John.
Then moments with one.
That pattern matters.
Equal love does not require equal access.
You cannot disciple everyone equally.
You cannot invest deeply in everyone simultaneously.
You cannot give the same access to every person and still remain faithful to your actual assignment.
You are not called to be equally available to everyone.
You are called to obey Christ.
Cheat the exhaustion badge.
The script says:
“Tired proves faithful.”
No, it does not.
Sometimes tired proves you are working hard.
Sometimes tired proves you are carrying what God never assigned.
Sometimes tired proves you keep saying yes because you do not know how to disappoint people without feeling like a criminal.
Chronic depletion is not a ministry credential.
Sleep.
Recover.
Walk.
Lift.
Eat like a grown man with a mission, not like a youth intern with a gas station gift card.
Your body is not an afterthought.
It is the vehicle through which much of your obedience happens.
Cheat urgency.
The script says:
“If it feels urgent, it must be important.”
Wrong.
Urgency is not lordship.
Some urgency is real.
Some urgency is manufactured.
Some urgency is merely the emotional volume of someone else’s poor planning.
Before you react, ask:
Is this mine?
Is this now?
Is this actually necessary?
Those three questions may save your week.
Possibly your blood pressure.
Possibly your sanctification.
This Is Not Neglect
Let’s be clear.
Cheating the wrong things does not mean becoming cold, detached, selfish, or unavailable.
It does not mean ignoring crisis.
It does not mean refusing inconvenience.
It does not mean hiding behind boundaries because you do not want to shepherd people.
The goal is not to care less.
The goal is to stop letting everything claim the same level of access.
You are not called to ignore people.
You are called to obey Christ.
And sometimes obedience to Christ requires disappointing people who thought their need automatically became your assignment.
Stewardship is not selfishness.
It is obedience with a longer time horizon in view.
The pastor who protects his health, focus, sleep, family, prayer life, and body is not abandoning the church. He is trying to remain useful to the church for decades.
That matters.
Because burnout does not usually happen because a pastor stopped caring.
It often happens because he never learned what not to carry.
A Simple Diagnostic
Ask yourself five questions this week:
What is draining me but feels normal?
What expectation am I obeying that Christ has not assigned?
What perceived need keeps hijacking real responsibility?
What boundary would immediately improve my faithfulness?
What must I cheat this week so I can obey Christ more fully?
Maybe you need to charge the phone outside the bedroom.
Maybe you need to block two sermon prep windows.
Maybe you need to cancel one unnecessary meeting.
Maybe you need to stock better food.
Maybe you need to take the walk.
Maybe you need to lift the weights.
Maybe you need to go home on time.
Nothing dramatic.
Just one act of betrayal against something that has been betraying you.
Betray What Betrays You
You are not called to betray your people.
You are not called to betray your family.
You are not called to betray true responsibility.
But you may need to betray what is already betraying you.
Betray the scripts that keep you sick.
Betray the routines that keep you scattered.
Betray the appetites that keep you foggy.
Betray the false guilt that keeps you overextended.
Betray the perceived needs Christ never assigned.
The need does not constitute the call.
Christ does.
So cheat the wrong things.
Betray what betrays you.
Steward the life God gave you.
And follow the One who actually owns your yes.
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